Q: Hey, how would you start dating somebody if you’re not involved with anyone? Just walk through the dorms of the women? I’ve tried that before, but really no one had there rooms open or seemed willing to talk.

A: Uh, I hope you’re joking man. Trying to meet women in the dorms? That’s a definite no-no. Here’s why:

Women love space, specifically their personal space. So the first thing you must get through your head is that their dorm rooms are like their home away from home. It’s a respect thing; don’t approach unless you are invited, and otherwise stay away at all costs. Women look at that type of stuff as weird behavior and will more likely be inclined to label you as “stalker” or “creepy” rather than hold a conversation with you in their personal space. Got it? Good.

Now let’s get to the good in this question: How do you meet someone you don’t know? I have some practical ways to go about this, and since us guys are very simple and straightforward, hopefully this will help.

1. You have to go where the single ladies are open and ready to mingle. This includes the Caf, Commons / Eagle’s Nest area, any open areas on campus (not dorms), and generally any place that they will be comfortable speaking to you. They want to feel safe – church is good, and I’ve even found some luck in the grocery store since it’s unassuming and fun, given the right approach.

2. Talk with many women. There are lots of different kinds of women, and not every one will catch your vibe. Nor will you like every one to whom you speak. It takes time to develop the skills necessary in attracting a good woman who does not have uneasy thoughts about you the first time you meet. If a woman ignores you or acts rudely (this will happen a lot), move on. You have better things to worry about.

3. Don’t use the “I’m talking to you to get you to date me” approach. Women catch on quickly to that one. Instead, have a fun, “I really don’t care about a date” approach. It works wonders. You want to be intriguing to them, not creepy. So make them feel good when around you and work on how you come off to them. When you give off bad vibes to a girl, take notice and make the appropriate changes.